Dating a girl my friend kissed in the past
Wednesday night youth group meetings served as our own opportunities to play "Love Connection," a game that resulted in broken hearts littering the foyer. Since I was the only one in the youth group who had the nerve to talk to her, she wound up liking me. After my folks were asleep, Kelly and I would spend hours on the phone, often late into the night, talking about everything and nothing in particular. We knew we couldn't be as close physically as we were emotionally. "No, it's over." We broke up two years after we'd met. Something Better I was seventeen years old when my relationship with Kelly ended. " God answered that plea, but not in the way I had expected.In my sophomore year, my involvement in the dating game took a more serious turn. She was beautiful, blonde, and two inches taller than I. I asked her to be my girlfriend on the youth group's water ski retreat. Everyone in our youth group recognized us as a couple. As a result, we experienced ongoing tension, and it wore on us. "We have to break up," I said to her one night after a movie. "Is there any chance we can have something in the future? My dreams of romance had ended in compromise, bitterness, and regret. " I felt discouraged, confused, and desperate for an alternative to the cycle of short-term relationships in which I found myself. I thought He'd bring me the ideal girlfriend or totally remove my desire for romance. Those were some pretty lofty promises you made at the altar today. Have you told her all the sweet things you used to whisper in my ear?The physical intimacy of those junior high relationships had nothing to do with love or real affection. In high school, I got serious about my walk with God and became actively involved in the church youth group.Soon, a chain of six girls stood by him as he repeated his vows to Anna. Going out with someone came to mean you made out with that person, too.Anna felt her lip beginning to quiver as tears welled up in her eyes. I remember standing by as a girl I liked called her boyfriend and broke up with him over the phone. That meant we were an "official couple." Looking back, I can only shake my head at how immature we were.
Smart love constantly grows and deepens in its practical knowledge and insight; it opens our eyes to see God's best for our lives, enabling us to be pure and blameless in His sight.We just mimicked what we saw older kids do and what we watched in the movies. I put an I'm Worth Waiting For" sticker on my NIV Student Bible and promised to stay a virgin until I got married.Unfortunately, youth group did little to improve my immature notions about relationships.To truly love someone with smart love, we need to use our heads as well as our hearts.As Paul describes it, love abounds in knowledge and insight.